A wedding is an emotional event for everyone involved. The bride, groom, families, and your wedding party will all have feelings and opinions on everything from the guest list to the reception, creating ample opportunity for wedding drama to unfold.
Even you yourself my have inner battles regarding some choices. Here’s some advice for braving the storm:
Take a Time Out
Do fun things with your mate-to-be that aren’t related to the wedding drama going on. Staying connected to your partner is important. This is the first big project you are tackling together.
The same goes for your friends – they probably have things going on in their lives they want to tell you about that aren’t wedding-related. Don’t let wedding drama consume your whole life.
Stay in the Pink
Don’t let physical fitness, proper diet, keeping doctor’s appointments, etc. fall by the wayside. You want to look and feel your best on your wedding day, not stressed and worn out by the preparations and inevitable wedding drama. Even if you’re on a tight schedule, missing a wedding detail is a minor cost compared to getting burnt out over the planning process as a whole.
Leave a Message at the Beep
It’s easy to feel barraged by phone calls from family, friends and vendors. Your answering machine or voicemail can help you slow the pace of all the wedding drama. By screening your phone calls, you get the condensed version.
You’ll give more thoughtful replies if you are able to concentrate on the conversation. The best decisions are not made driving 65 mph while juggling a cup of coffee and talking on the phone.
Lend Me Your Ear
Listen to the input of your loved ones. They may give you some ideas you hadn’t considered. Tell them that you appreciate them taking the time to let you know how they feel and you will see if whatever they’re requesting is a possibility.
Try your best to avoid giving an answer on the spot. Saying yes and having to let them down or flatly refusing their request will only cause more wedding drama.
Aye, Aye, Captain
Whether you choose to incorporate suggestions, the decision is ultimately yours. Go with what feels right – there are no wrong answers. Remembering that you are the captain of this ship can prevent you from feeling pulled in all directions when wedding drama is trying to take root.
When you’ve made your decision, patch things up if you think you’ve let someone down. Tell them why you decided against their suggestion and that you hope they’ll understand. Asserting yourself kindly but firmly should put the issue to rest and end the wedding drama once and for all.
Four Alarm Fire
Not every glitch is an emergency, so don’t let alarm bells ring when a problem arises. There will be some snafus, but don’t let them ruin the whole thing – wedding drama is a part of every bride’s special day – it’s how you handle it that matters most. Do what needs to be done and focus on all the joy of your special day. If something major happens, it will be a story for your grandchildren. Besides, popular superstition says that the more wedding drama you have, the happier the marriage will be!
Through all the turmoil, remember to breathe deep and don’t sweat the small stuff. No matter what happens, you’ll come away from the day with treasured memories that will last a lifetime and you won’t even remember the wedding drama that unfolded.